If you want to be more attractive, make a decision to live in a beautiful state. To say, “I’m not going to give up my happiness over little stuff. I’m not going to be obsessed about things I can’t control. I’m going to focus on what I can control and what I can do.”
And when people are generous, when they’re playful, when they’re warm, when they’re sincere, when they’re loving, people love to be around them. There’s nothing more attractive. And when somebody is always bitching, they’re a bummer to be around. I mean just pick it out.
So what does it take to be more attractive? What it really takes is appreciating your life. Most people, their upsets are because their expectations aren’t met. You expect people to be a certain way. You expect yourself to be a certain way. You expect the government to be a certain way, and it isn’t. So, I always tell people “Trade your expectations for appreciation, and your whole life changes like that.”
If you can just start appreciating the people around you, appreciating this moment, appreciating things that you’re not noticing, you’ll live in a beautiful state and other people will find being around you an attractive or an enjoyable experience. It’s that simple.