Fault vs Responsiblity

By September 24, 201832 Comments

The past year has brought on quite a bit of changes. One year ago I took a look at a picture and didn’t recognize the person I was. The 22 year old would have kicked the old out of shape person I’d become’s butt. That’s when I decided to make a change, and go back to the blueprint, rebuilding the foundation. It was my fault I got out of shape, and my responsibility to fix myself.

I’m sure many of you can relate as we go through our day to day lives. I got stuck on some thoughts for a while over fault and responsibility.  Another example recently I was shook to my core splitting with my business partners and long time friends. We had different visions, of how to create things, and live life. I want to pursue a healthier lifestyle, and help others do the same. In order to make the best boards and products, I have to be the best version of myself. It was a messy split….

I began to think how it was somebody’s fault, or was it my fault…… And I was like it doesn’t matter who’s fault it is that something is broken. 

But it’s my responsibility to fix it. For example:

It’s not somebody’s fault that their father was an abusive alcoholic, but it’s for damn sure their responsibility to deal with those traumas and try to figure out how to make a life out of it. 

It’s not your fault that your partner cheated and ruined your marriage. But it is for damn sure your responsibility to figure out how to take that pain and how to overcome that and build a happy life.

Fault and responsibility do not go together, it sucks but they don’t. When something is someone’s fault we want them to suffer, we want them punished, we want them to pay. We want it to be their repsonsiblity to fix it. But that’s not how it works, especially when it’s your heart. Your heart, your life, your happiness, is your reasonability, and your reasonability alone. 

As long as we’re pointing the finger, and stuck in who’s fault something is we’re jammed and trapped into victim mode. When you’re in victim mode your stuck in suffering. The road to power is taking responsibility, your heart, your life, your happiness is your reasonability and your responsibility alone.

It’s a recognition of the power you cease when you stop blaming people. It’s not letting someone who wronged you off the hook rather, it’s act of emotional self defense. By taking responsibility it’s taking your power back. 

Today I took my power back.